How do we know someone? What does it mean to know someone? What you know about them? How you compliment each other? Time? Because Ive met people and felt I knew them after 5 mins, at the same time, these people don't always turn out to be the best friends. And on the other hand I have friends that I may have known for YEARS and I wouldn't say I KNEW them, maybe just know of them. Some of my best friend had histories that would have made me second guess acquainting with them. So how do I get to know you?
My theory lies within energy. When you first meet someone their energy dictates your comfort level, which dictates how much of a mask you wear. We all have a "surrogate" personality that we use for strangers, business, etc. and how much of the real us we let shine through dictates how much a person gets to know you. The conversation and activities are really just to help get the person comfortable, so that the natural them comes out.
That also means they have to want to know you. I have a bad habit of kinda staying in character until the other party breaks, which usually happens fairly quickly. But what if it doesn't? Ive recently learned that you have to give yourself to receive others. I'm so used to people approaching me that when I'm put into a situation where i need to be assertive in forming that "bond" or getting to "know" someone, that I'm not sure what to do and let it kinda wither away. Keeping myself from things I really want seems to be my plight, at least I'm trying to learn!
Good evening... This is a glimpse into a few of the steps that will yield "theIllgorythm". An individual made up of separate and sometimes conflicting ideals, passions, and beliefs. I'm not positive why I began this blog, I have many ideas of what it could become, though I'm not sure as to the direction it will go. For now, lets just consider it another venue for me to express...
I like this sir! It's very trans formative and great insight into the inner workings. I, too, sometimes feel like there is a loss in the authenticity of relationships, but I am very quick to cast people off (Which is not good). I think we let our past dictate our future when we should just take the lessons with a grain of salt. Kudos!
ReplyDeleteLove the use of the word "surrogate". Most people assume that they know me,but many don't get to see all of me. I've referred to it as "putting up a front",but its not a front at all..just pieces of me & I'm sure we're all guilty of that. Like you, I have "friends" that I've "known" for years,but don't really know all there is to know about them. I think one should present themselves to those who can handle it, otherwise "surrogate" it is. Plus, somethings are better left unsaid, because they're not always understood by your audience. I wonder how different the world would be if we were all 100% all the time...Great post!
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